9 years ago today…
1 Comment » // January 6th, 2009
my father lost his battle with AIDS. And yes, he was gay.
I am so grateful to The Universe for giving me a gay father. It made me exactly who I am today, a very open-minded accepting person who will fight for GLBT rights until I don’t need to any more. Yes I will say that I have recently been dealing with my “daddy issues” of having my parents get divorced when I was a baby and my father not being around as much as I would have liked because he was living in other places because of his job. I think he was also trying to find himself in a time where people didn’t come out as easily (not that it is easy) as they do now. So I have come to terms with the abandonment issues I have with my father…and I know he did the best he could at the time and I am still grateful I had the times I did with him. I got to go to lots of cool places as a kid and visit him and that was fun. He was just a fun, sweet guy to be around and as I got older our relationship started to blossom. He was much better dealing with me as an adult, than as a child. Which is why it breaks my heart that he died just before my 24th birthday. I was just finally really getting to know him and we were having such amazing times together.
Anyway, I just wanted to say what an amazing guy my father was…he also had an amazing partner of 20 years who I am still close too….and YES they should have been able to get legally married. Period. Dot. It’s that simple. They were in love and should have been able to celebrate that in a legal way…there were a lot of issues when my father passed with legalities and it just would have been nice for his partner to not have to deal with that drama during such a rough time.
Squeeze your loved ones out there today and every day. And for those of you who have lost someone close to you, I get it.
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January 7th, 2009 at 11:33 am
I take a moment of silence today in loving memory of your sweet dad. What a blessing that you were able to enjoy your whole childhood with him. I lost my dad at age 19–he was 50–and he had always talked about how much he looked forward to having adult friendships with me and my brother. It still hurts sometimes, but over the years I understand more and more how rarely lucky and blessed I was to have such a guide and anchor in my early years.
That this country still does not recognize gay marriage is unconscionable. But I believe with my whole heart that we will see this long-overdue change happen within our lifetimes.
Much love to you, Jen–
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